I am a somewhat young mom of a *now* 15 year old daughter, a *now* 10 year old son, and a 6 yr old son. Our family's lives have changed dramatically over the last 10 years. From loosing my first husband (of almost 8 years) to giving birth to our son 2 months later, to finding (and marrying) the new love of my life. I am so blessed! This blog is my walk through the tragedy, the loss, the new chances, and new life for our whole family.
Thursday, August 1, 2013
Rebecca's other dad...
Those words... "Rebecca's other dad" has become a new saying around our house and it's one that I'm not sure I'm ready to try and explain to a certain 4 yr old.
J has seen pictures of Donovan with R lots of times. R calls him her first dad and she still has fond memories of him. The other day, J asked me if R's other dad died. I told him yes. Why? (at least this wasn't new territory for me but, it is new for Jeff to help explain) Answer: His heart stopped working. Reply: Oh. Ok. And then J goes on to play with R on something else.
The first time this talk came up, I told him that Donovan was his first dad too. That only lead to confusion for J. R was 5 when Donovan died and that was difficult enough to work thru some of the questions (others haven't even been asked yet). How are we going to do this with a 4 yr old?!?
In some ways, it's a blessing that J hasn't felt loss yet and isn't aware of the pain that goes with it. The only Dad that he's aware of and loves is Jeff. I know that this is just the beginning of J's travel thru knowledge and experiencing loss.... Just wish it hadn't started this soon... Oh well. As Jeff reminds me *quite often*, we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. Just so thankful that I do have Jeff by my side and we work thru things as a family.
Blessed and more to follow.....
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